Do vs Be

Doing versus being. This conflict has been brought to my attention often recently. One of my amazing yoga teachers, Doug Johnson, has also been talking about this conflict and I thought I'd add my two cents to it. 

I personally feel that our society is caught up in "doing." We numb with busyness. How much, how fast, and how successful we can describe ourselves has become the norm for how we define ourselves. 

It's not enough our kids are in 2 sports and AP classes, they have excel in every single aspect of their lives! Do do do! I know I have been EXTRMELY guilty of numbing with being busy. I've often worked multiple jobs and been lucky to have 1 day off a week. Why? What for? What am I really trying to accomplish? 

I decided that I would like to focus on "being" after trauma and tragedy hit my personal life it literally made me stop and evaluate everything in my life. I mean everything. It made me question everything I thought to be true and held close to heart. To put it simply, I stopped caring. 

Now, before you go all crazy on me, let me explain what I mean by "stop caring." I stopped engaging in the comparison game. I started to "do me" in the hopes that it will lead me to "be me." It's so freeing. When you no longer care about "doing" and focus on "being", life becomes more pleasant. More simple. I surround myself with people that are low key and grounded because that's what I need in my life for now. And the cool part is, I get to "be me!" 

I no longer work 6 1/2 days a week. Yoga teacher training- yes! Spend time with my dog- yes! Family-yes! And by learning and working on "being me" I get to do what is important to me. I make decisions that align with my core values. 

So... Who's with me? Who wants to start being instead of doing? 

I'd love to hear your comments and thoughts! 

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