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Fear of Failure... Or Fear of Success...

I was working with a young lady who suffered from an eating disorder. She often spoke of being afraid of making mistakes, not being good enough, not making the right choices, etc. In a sense, all the things in life that she was fearful of.  After a couple weeks of working intensely with her, it hit me! She wasn't afraid of failing... She was honestly already "failing" with remaining in her eating disorder, suicidal thoughts and self-harm. What she was afraid of was succeeding.  Stay with me here. While remaining in her disorder, she was actually failing. She was unable to engage in life, socialize with friends, and be a "normal" teenager! If she made the decision to keep down her current path, she would continue to be failing. So I asked her point blank- "do you have a fear of failing, or a fear of succeeding?" She was quiet for a couple minutes and then said it was fear of success. See, if she remained in her disorder, she could continue to blame her

Lesson from the mat

So I am starting yoga teacher training this October. Not necessarily because I want to be a yoga teacher but because I want to enrich my life and apply more yogic principles to my work as a therapist. See, there are eight limbs of yoga and only one of them is the physical practice of yoga (name as asana). More on that later though.  I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine (also a yogi) about her struggle with standing leg poses. I jokingly asked her about her drishti  (focal point) as without having one, you are certain to lose your balance and fall over.  Well, this got me thinking. We need a drishti for balance. We need a focus for balance. So if you find yourself feeling as if your life is out of sorts and unbalanced... Ask yourself this question... What is your drishti?  If you aren't sure or don't have one, that may be the very problem! So I invite everyone to find their drishti and start to bring balance into your life!